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Are you just putting up with his gaming hobby and telling him that you’re okay with him playing instead of hanging out with you, when really, you’re fuming inside and are counting down the days until you change him for good?
I’m really sorry to break it to you, but the chances of this happening are pretty slim. I mean, I’m not saying it’s impossible – I’m sure some people have successfully weaned their partner off gaming and are doing great. I just think it’s pretty unlikely and it’s a risky strategy to take.
As long as his game is just a hobby and not a more serious addiction (…which may actually require attention, but we’ll cover that another day…), in the words of Paul McCartney, “let it be”. In the case of my Gamer Guy, he started playing long before I ever came into the picture – who am I to try and change that? It may sound pretty cliche, but it has probably helped mould him into the amazing person he is today. (All together now: “nawwww”)
Just take a moment to imagine your favourite hobby. Ok, are you thinking of it? Are you thinking about all the fun, happy times you’ve spent enjoying your hobby? Yep? Ok, now imagine if your significant other told you that you were no longer allowed to partake in said hobby, ever again. Tough, hey? I’m all for negotiation and compromise though. Work with him to find a routine that suits the both of you, just don’t go in there expecting to completely change him.
Take Home Message: The world isn’t like Grease – don’t expect your gamer boy to magically transform overnight and start dressing like a jock à la Danny Zuco. Stuff like that only happens in the movies. And even so, it only leads to dancing like an idiot and singing nonsensically.