My “Game Face” tips are all about your attitude towards his gaming habit. It really makes all the difference. So my first, and possibly most important point I want to stress about your attitude toward your gamer guy is that:
You should NOT make it about you vs his gaming.
Just because he wants to spend time gaming, does not mean that he does not want to spend time with you. For the most part, these are mutually exclusive events. I’m fairly confident that in his ideal world, he could spend time with you AND play his games, at the same time. In my ideal world, I could bake some delicious chocolate brownies while painting some swanky new abstract piece to go on my walls, but that’s not going to happen either.
My god, this is what I’ve been trying to make my partner understand. I really try to explain to her that gaming is one of the aspects of my life and should not be compared to her who is another aspect of my life. I want her to understand that What I share with her is a part of who I am, same goes with with gaming which is also a part of who I am.
I really think that I’m bad at explaining things, the best I could come up with when we have our arguments about this is that, I see/want/need her in now in my life and in my future, but at the same time, I will always need time to play games. This is really hard to balance :S
I must admit, it can often be a difficult concept to grasp – I know I struggled with it for quite some time! For many of us Partners of Gamers, the default reaction is to take it personally, we don’t know how else to take it. In saying that, I hope you can kinda see her point of view too – we just think in a different way to you gamers, okay?! Be patient in trying to explain it to her, it’ll be worth it – I promise :)