A common complaint from Partners of Gamers is that they often feel ignored when their partner is gaming. It may be that their partner does not reply to questions, takes forever to reply to texts or goes MIA for long periods at a time. See Exhibit A, below for a typical disgruntled girlfriend:
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As frustrating as it may be, Partners of Gamers, perhaps it would help if we tried to look at it from the gamers’ point of view. In most cases, it’s not that they are deliberately ignoring us. I promise. They are just simply very, very into their hobby. I have previously tried to explain this using The Notebook as an example. I know that if I were deeply engrossed in something that I loved, it’s often hard to tear yourself away :)
That said, also consider that with movies and a lot of other hobbies, you can easily pause what you are doing if the need arises. An important thing to note with gaming is that you are involved in a live game, often playing with and against other real people, and so it may not be as simple as hitting the pause button. Try to think of it as if your partner was playing a live game of football. If you needed to ask them something, wouldn’t it be a little bit silly to have to interrupt play, waltz onto the field and talk to them then and there? I know it’s a bit of a stretch with the analogy, but you get the gist, right?
And it’s also not as simple as leaving the game running and taking his attention off the game for a few moments. A hell of a lot can happen in a game during those few moments and that could mean the difference between a win or a loss for the team. Now, it would just be cruel to make your partner responsible for that and he would have to answer to a barrage of angry comments from the rest of his team as a result of it.
I can safely say that many gamers share these feelings. For example, here is a desperate plea from some awesome guys, in the form of “Glad You Came”. Bravo, Jenton and crew – that was heart-felt and hilarious:
I’m not trying to say that being temporarily ignored during a game is not annoying. In an ideal world, it would be great if I could interrupt my partner’s game every time I saw something funny on TV or when the puppies are being extra adorable and I feel he should see it, but I understand it’s best for both of our sanity if I just fill him in during the next break in his games. I can almost guarantee that you will get a much more positive response if you just wait for the right moment :)