Gamer relationship hack: You’re probably not going to change them

You Can't Change A Man

And hopefully he is able to tear himself away from his games long enough so that he doesn’t actually require any diapers…

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Are you just putting up with your partner’s gaming hobby and claiming that you’re okay with them playing instead of hanging out with you, when really, you’re fuming inside and are counting down the days until you change them for good?

I’m really sorry to break it to you, but the chances of this happening are pretty slim. I mean, I’m not saying it’s impossible – I’m sure some people have successfully weaned their partner off gaming and are doing great. I just think it’s pretty unlikely and it’s a risky strategy to take.

As long as their gaming is just a hobby and not a more serious addiction, in the words of Paul McCartney, “let it be”. In the case of my Gamer Guy, he started playing long before I ever came into the picture – who am I to try and change that? It may sound a little corny, but it has probably helped mould him into the amazing person he is today.

Just take a moment to imagine your favourite hobby. (I’m thinking of watching trashy tv.) Ok, are you thinking of it? (Yep.) Are you thinking about all the fun, happy times you’ve spent enjoying your hobby? (Yep. Oh, you complete me, The Amazing Race. So many good times,) Ok, now imagine if your significant other told you that you were no longer allowed to partake in said hobby, ever again. (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻) Tough and unfair, hey?

That said, I’m a big believer in negotiation and compromise. Work with your partner to find a routine that suits the both of you. All I’m asking it that you do not just go in there expecting to completely change who they are.

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Hi, I’m Vicki and my partner is a gamer. I help bridge the divide between gamers and non-gamers. If you’d like to get in touch, you can reach me at

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